You’ve left the narcissist. You’ve deleted the number, blocked them on socials, maybe even
moved cities or changed your locks. You should feel free, right?
But somehow, they’re still in your head.
That inner monologue that whispers, “You’re not good enough,” “You’re too sensitive,” or “No
one else will love you like I did.” Yeah. That’s not your voice, love. That’s theirs. And it’s time to
evict it, for good.
In my book The Silent Abuse, I talk about something called the narcissistic introject, that
lingering, toxic echo of the narcissist’s voice that stays in our minds long after they’re gone. It’s
sneaky. It’s persistent. And if we’re not careful, it becomes the soundtrack to our lives.
Here’s the hard truth: you can be physically free from someone and still emotionally
imprisoned by them. That was me for a long time. I had escaped the relationship, but the real
battle was happening inside. I still judged myself by their standards. Still played small to avoid
“being too much.” Still doubted my worth every time I made a decision.
Sound familiar?
That’s the legacy of psychological abuse. It’s not loud or obvious, it’s a slow, silent seep into
your identity. But just because the narcissist planted that voice doesn’t mean it has to stay. You
have the power to pull it out by the root. And yes, that healing is yours to claim.
So how do we start quieting that voice?
It begins with redirection. You stop giving them air time. Instead of feeding energy into the
memory of what they said or did, you start pouring energy into you. What do you enjoy? What
lights you up? What did you stop doing just to keep the peace?
For me, healing looked like reconnecting with everything I had pushed aside, my creativity, my
community, my joy. I made space for things that made me feel alive again. I spent time with
friends who didn’t make me walk on eggshells. I laughed more. Danced more. I even let myself
be silly without the fear of being judged. That kind of freedom? Revolutionary.
I also leaned into somatic practices, healing that happens through the body, not just the mind.
Trauma isn’t just something we think about. It lives in our muscles, our breath, our nervous
system. That’s why movement is magic.
Want something simple to start with? Try this: Art journaling. But don’t just glue things down,
make it visceral. Rip pages, tear images, scribble with your whole body. Let yourself move
through the emotion instead of locking it in. When you create like this, you’re not just making
something pretty, you’re physically releasing what’s been trapped inside you.
And of course, journaling, uncensored, unfiltered, can be wildly healing. Write what you’re too
afraid to say out loud. Let it be raw. Let it be angry. Let it be honest. You’re not writing for
anyone else. You’re writing to reclaim you.
And let’s talk boundaries for a second. Reclaiming your voice also means not letting the
narcissist live rent-free in your mind anymore. That means no more replaying conversations,
no more fantasizing about closure, and definitely no more wondering what they’d think of your
healing. Their opinion is no longer part of your story.
This is your comeback season. And the star of the show? Your voice.
The quiet, powerful, unapologetic voice that was buried under manipulation, gaslighting, and
fear, that voice deserves center stage now.
If you’re still battling the ghost of a narcissist’s voice in your mind, I want you to know you’re
not alone. But I also want you to know, it gets quieter. Healing is real. Peace is possible.
I’ve walked this path, and I’ve helped so many others do the same. From art therapy to guided
workshops to somatic expression, I offer tools that empower you to come home to yourself.
Because you? You are worth the work. And your voice? It’s more powerful than you realize.
Want to dive deeper? Grab a copy of The Silent Abuse on Amazon, it’s raw, real, and filled with
everything I wish someone had told me.
Join me at Soulfully Wild, where healing is holistic and growth is sacred.
And yes, your girl was named one of NYC Journal’s “Top 20 Female Entrepreneurs to Watch in
2024.” Turns out, when you reclaim your voice, the world listens.
